First off, HI!! I’m very aware it’s been a while. I hope you all have been doing well.
I have come on so many times in the last month, started a blog post or edited the one I started and then just left it. Never to be posted. But the posts never ended up turning out “right”. I feel like my writing is different now. Like I’m an old friend trying to reconnect. And it’s difficult. I’m not sure what to expect from my writing anymore. I’m sure there’s explanation to it, but I want to get back to that feeling – that feeling that makes my heart beat a little faster, that feeling that makes my breath a little heavier, that feeling that makes me feel like I can take on the world. I want to reconnect with my writing. I want to make a difference.
Along with not really posting since January, I got off social media. I recently got back on Facebook in the last few days and posted about my recent mental health journey and how I was inpatient for awhile. The supportive comments were abundant. People I hadn’t talked to in some time reached out and told me they were glad to see me fighting and back on Facebook posting the things I do. It was very unexpected and it made me feel appreciated and like people would notice if I was gone. But one person that reached out in particular really hit me with what they had to say.
Basically this person had been suffering from anxiety and was asking for some tips and tricks to deal with the panic attacks. They then said, and this is what rattled me to my bones…
My partner doesn’t support me at all.
Ummmm… I’m sorry but what?!?! My heart broke for them. And it actually brought me to my own realization; I’m so lucky to have a supportive husband, family and friends. Not everyone has that, and I know I take it for granted sometimes. But to have your partner not be supportive of a mental health issue you are experiencing is nothing short of absurd. Your partner is supposed to love you unconditionally.
I offered to be available to this person day or night, whenever they may need to call. I hope they take me up on my offer, as I know how penting things up can cause further destruction and isolation. Not talking about the things we experience and feel is unhealthy. Yes, of course there is a line that should not be crossed (i.e. being hurtful to someone else) and some things should indeed not be told to just anyone, but that’s something that we need to establish and learn for ourselves. It takes time.
Everyone should have someone. E.V.E.R.Y.O.N.E.
If you are not in a place where you can be there for someone and you need someone to be there for you, that’s okay! Just be sure that when you get healthy, that you try to help someone else in need. It is so incredibly important that we show our love and support for one another, especially those with mental health issues. There is still too much stigma surrounding the mental health community. We cannot expect others to stand up for us. We need to be our own advocates.
Mental health is so important, even for those that don’t regularly suffer from an illness. We are only human, and everyone needs a break, a friend to talk with and a feeling of worth. You could be those things for somebody. Somebody could be those things for you. Let’s lift each other up. Let’s support one another. Let’s just love. ❤
It’s good to be back.
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